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Nairobi News : December 11th 2013
22 Wednesday, Dec 11 - Thursday, Dec 12, 2013 nairobinews.co.ke mytake you use?” I posed this question to a few male colleagues and was met with blank, bewildered looks. Some of the men were confused, others offended and even amused. In a about ten men, six said the Get it right men, pills will help you to plan your life “F orgive me for my bluntness, but what type of contraception do Njoki Chege City Girl most common method of contraception they used was condoms. Two told me about vasectomy, one said withdrawal and another abstinence (hahaha)! The issue of contraception and fam- ily planning has for a long time been a taboo topic. Couples only talk about it when the lights are off or when they discover that they are expecting a child they had not planned for. Contraception is wrongly classified as a woman’s problem, and how or when she deals with it is her choice. I always assumed that it was the illiterate men who don’t give a damn about contraception, but how wrong was I. My colleagues are educated, polished and exposed young (and old) men, whom after talking to them, believe that contraception ‘n (a woman’s job). i kz a mm A mother scolds her child for climbing on shelves. File, NairobiNews Taming junior needs more than just love Etiquette. Teaching your children good manners is something that parents must make a priority our presence did not deter her three sons enthusiasm for jumping all over the room. Their mother endured the noise I with an indulgent smile, finding it perfectly acceptable to raise her voice to carry on a conversation. She was not happy when I lost my patience and told one of the kids to behave well, obviously wondering why I did not seem to understand that “boys have a lot more vim in their verve”. One of the responsibilities we have as parents is to help our children to develop social skills, demonstrate to them how to interact politely with people, besides treating others with respect. Teaching your children good man- ners is something that parents must make a priority. recently accompanied a friend to visit her convalescing relative. While there, I was astonished that If you refuse to be strict about manners, your children will have a difficult time with other people, who in turn, will form negative impressions about their parents. Emulate It does not come easily to me to address my elders or bosses by their first names, regardless of the fact that this is the norm nowadays. My parents taught me early in life to be polite and so I cannot end a telephone conversation without thanking the caller, something I am happy Good manners • Parental role modelling: helps to mould children into responsible beings. • Set a good example: by demonstrating how children can behave well in the presence of people they cannot stand. Mbura: If you refuse to be strict about manners, your children will have a hard time with other people, who in turn, will form negative impressions about their parents” • Teach your children social skills: This will come in handy during conflict resolution. • Teach kids to remain calm and polite to people who offend them. to say that my kids are emulating. My six-year-old son recently heard me yelling ‘ai nn!’ (what is it!), while t ii talking to someone in the next room. Earlier this year, I had introduced to him the phrase “I beg your pardon,” while requesting someone to repeat what they had said. It is not enough to preach to your children how to behave well, you have to behave in the manner that you want them to. I live in a flat and my neighbour above me has two girls. The eldest girl attends the same class as my son but I have warned him not to interact too closely with the girl lest he imitate her language which is not comely. It is difficult to make them un- derstand such a scenario, while at the same time remaining polite and friendly to the offending party. While it is not the girls’ fault, who in all likelihood, picked up their lessthan-diplomatic language from their parents, it takes all my restraint not to order them out of my sight when I see them approaching my kids. As an adult, my responsibility is to set a good example by demonstrating how to behave with civility in the presence of people I cannot stand. Catherine Mbura Urban Mum Family planning Well, I got news for you. Without a man, there is no contraception. no babies and definitely no family planning. Men need to realise that contraception is not a woman’s business, but a family issue. Scientists say that there are very few contraception options for men - besides condoms and vasectomy - but that does not give them a reason to excuse themselves from the issue. Most men hardly know about the more than ten methods of contraception available, and it is evident from my workmates, most of whom only know about condoms. The good news is, while there are limited options for men, there are several available for women. Consequently, men ought to take this opportunity and accompany their partners to clinics to choose what is the best for them. Sadly, women complain that their partners not only refuse to use condoms but also don’t discuss contraception. Men’s fear of contraception has Using contraceptives will prevent unwanted pregnancies. File, NairobiNews everything to do with the myths and misconceptions that contraception kills a woman’s libido, causes cancer and affects fertility. Contraception also makes a woman grow fat and also causes birth defects. Facts All these and a few other lies are what have been making men shun contraceptives. For once, we need to get the facts about contraception. The truth is, contraception brings peace of mind. You no longer have to worry about unplanned pregnancies and that way, you are able to plan your life and family. I am sure we all want that for our- selves and our partners. The first step? Ditch the myths and start talking contraception! Most common methods The choice of which method of contraception varies from one person to another. These are the most common methods of contraception: • Natural method: It is called natural because it does not involve use of drug or device. It includes withdrawal and safe period timing. • Intrauterine contraceptive device: Use of devices which may have some form of drug (hormone) attached to them. The mode of function is by placing a barrier to prevent fertilisation in the fallopian tube. • Hormonal methods: These are the most common method of family planning and contraceptive after the condom. They include taking hormones orally or by injection. Some are implanted in a woman to prevent development and maturation of the ovum. • Surgical methods: Apart from condoms, this is another area in which men can directly contribute to family planning . Vasectomy, or male sterilisation, is the surgical process of cutting and tying the vas deferens in order to prevent spermatozoa from mixing with semen. • Consequently, when ejaculation occurs, the semen will not have any sperms. It is one of the most effective methods of contraception—it has a reported failure rate of about 0.1 per cent ai y a a’.
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